Men and Porn

Extracted Verses and Quotes from the Sermon

Biblical Verses

Matthew 5:27-28

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Psalm 103

“The Lord is merciful and gracious to porn users; He is slow to anger and abounding in mercy. He will not always strive with us, nor will He keep His anger forever. He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. As a father pities his children, so the Lord pities those who fear Him. For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.”

Isaiah 41:10

“Do not be afraid, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

1 John 1:9

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

1 Corinthians 15:3-4

“For I delivered to you first of all that which I also received: that Christ died for our porn sins according to the Scriptures, and that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the Scriptures.”

Hebrews 4:14-16

“Seeing then that we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

Memorable Quotes

“The World Health Organization has declared that pornography is a public health emergency. Even in the secular world, pornography is viewed as a public health emergency—and I want to say today that it’s a spiritual emergency in our church as well.”

“Ted Bundy was at that jumping off point for two years; he watched, he read, he filled his mind with immorality, and he was at that jumping off point for two years before he decided to act out upon what was inside his mind.”

“Pornography is addictive. Viewers tend to need an ever-increasing dosage over time in order to feel the same level of enjoyment, and they often seek out more extreme forms to maintain the same level of excitement as they become immune to what they’ve previously been watching.”

“The brain has two parts of the reward system: the liking system and the wanting system. The liking system gives pleasure, but the brain releases a chemical called CREB that acts like brakes on the rush of dopamine, dulling your enjoyment over time. The wanting system rewires your brain to crave more, building new neural connections that fuel addiction.”

“This creates a paradox in the mind of the addict: the more you want it, the less you like it. The more you are drawn to it, the less pleasure you find in it. This truly is a horrendous addiction.”

“Internet immorality promises immediate satisfaction, endless excitement, and easy intimacy, but in the end it robs you of all three. The more you consume, the more you withdraw emotionally from those around you, becoming lonely and isolated.”

“Watching internet immorality is committing adultery—that’s what it is. It’s a breach of the seventh commandment, and a wife has every biblical right to divorce her husband who watches internet pornography.”

“Viewing it online makes a man more critical of his wife in every way possible, and he becomes less satisfied with her in every way possible. Real love requires a real commitment to a real person, and internet immorality makes it very hard, if not impossible, for a man to love a real wife.”

“As internet immorality grows, it becomes harder and darker. A teenage boy might start with erotic material, then move on to hardcore, and then to material involving assault and violence, even pedo sadism. Once you start down this path, it is very, very hard to pull back.”

“An epidemic of young men in their twenties are experiencing erectile dysfunction because they have consumed so much internet immorality that they can no longer respond to a real woman.”

“Users of internet immorality are much more likely to use drugs and alcohol to coerce women into certain acts. Studies show that any kind of immorality increases aggressive behavior towards women and encourages men to cherish violent fantasies that they may eventually act upon.”

“Pornography is a sin, and if unconfessed and unrepented of, it will keep us out of the promised land. There is no acceptable use of this kind of material in the Christian worldview.”

“Despite your use of immorality, God loves you and He wants to save you. For God so loved every porn user that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”

“Jesus died for every porn addict as well. Christ died for our porn sins according to the Scriptures.”

“We are not lost and helpless. God invites us to become overcomers of sin in our lives. He has built us with neuroplasticity so that our minds can literally be reformed, and our old neural pathways can be overridden by holy and sanctified neural pathways.”

“Confess your sin to your spouse unreservedly and never impute any blame to her. It is never the wife’s fault when the husband consumes internet immorality. Be grateful for a wife who is patient to put up with your corrupted behavior and your debased mind.”

“Porn is a sin with a neurobiological basis. Addiction has dominion over you. This isn’t just a sin that comes and goes; it controls your thinking as those addictive neural pathways have been created over the years.”

“Find healthy ways to remove the triggers for your addiction. For instance, going for a walk, playing a game of ping pong, or listening to some uplifting music. If possible, remove those access points from your life.”

“Finding a support group is an important part of the therapeutic process. Many men simply do not have that kind of friend who will listen and offer trust and confidentiality, so they keep going back to their private sin.”

“Never give up hope. We serve a mighty Savior who has the authority and the power to lift us out of that pit.”

“Like a recovering alcoholic, a recovering pornoholic will always struggle with temptation, but as time passes, God’s promise of brain renewal will come true as your brain develops new healthy, God-fearing, and sanctified neural pathways.”

“Hebrews 4:14-16 is a beautiful promise: we have a High Priest who was tempted in every way as we are, yet without sin. Let us come boldly to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace to help in our time of need.”

“The greatest want of the world is the want of men—men who will not be bought or sold; men who in their innermost souls are true and honest; men who do not call sin by its right name; men whose conscience is true to duty; men who are the needle to the pole; men who will stand for the right through the heavens full.”

“A noble character is not the result of accident or special favors, but the result of self-discipline, of the subjugation of the lower to the higher nature, the surrender of self for the service of love to God and to man.”

“One way to overcome internet addiction is to serve those less fortunate than ourselves. If you’re tempted on a Saturday night to watch internet pornography, make it a habit to do hospital visitation on Saturday night—to serve God and man instead of giving in to temptation.”

“Don’t just sit and do nothing. Make a call today. These are God-fearing men in this community who can help. Start the process of healing today.”

“Today is a day of religious liberty. Do not say you do not have the liberty to overcome this sin. We have religious liberty in America. Use that liberty that God has granted you to gain victory over this besetting sin.”

“Stand up for God and see what He may do for you. It will be the restoration of your mind, your marriage, your heart, and the ability to live a healthy and wholesome life—the ability to be a man of faith as God has called you to be.”

Other Quotations

Ellen G. White

“The greatest want of the world is the want of men—men who will not be bought or sold; men who in their innermost souls are true and honest; men who do not call sin by its right name; men whose conscience is true to duty; men who are the needle to the pole; men who will stand for the right through the heavens full.”

“But such a character is not the result of accident. It is not due to special favors or the endowments of Providence. Rather, a noble character is the result of self-discipline, of the subjugation of the lower to the higher nature, the surrender of self for the service of love to God and to man.”